Help for loved ones.


You are already close to the one who owns the manual we provide for our program. And you obviously already care deeply or you wouldn't be bothering to read this. Please know that we deeply respect your loved one for his efforts to get his life back on track. In this struggle, his efforts are genuinely viewed as an heroic struggle.

The struggle part may be obvious—it's extremely hard for anyone in our society to make a comeback—so hard that one writer, F. Scott Fitzgerald, stated "there were no second acts in life." Most of us have made some sort of comeback in life, from a failed career, a failed marriage, a life of drug abuse or perhaps all of these. But few of us have ever had to deal with a stigma as pervasive in our society as those labeled: sex offender. No one, not drug addicts, not drug dealers, not even murderers, even murderers of children deal with the stigma of a sex offender. Hence the word struggle—coming back is definitely a struggle.

Why heroic?
Your loved one is heroic in the way any hero is: Someone willing to lay down his/her own personal life for the sake of others. He/she faces the fear and adversity for the sake of a larger notion, that is, the love of those around him. Some might say, "for the greater good."

What can you do to help?
You've already started. By reading this. We also encourage you to read the program manual, "Get Busy Living." This will give you a sense of what we are asking your loved one to do. You'll also be conversant in the vocabulary and terms that we use in the program.