We help you in your recovery from destructive behaviors that brought you into conflict with society.  In helping you recover and become a vital part of the community, we hold fast to four fundamentals as essential:

          1. Respect for you, your gender and your sexuality
          2. Help for managing your sexuality rather than being managed by it
          3. Encouragement to embrace normal human sexuality with all its diversity
          4. Adherence to a holistic approach to treatment--

emphasizing success in friendship, career, and love.

>>>The Sex Offender Help Forum has been replaced by a "Writings" section of this site where people may submit writing about sex offenders, their recover, their legal processing, their reintegration into society or other matters relating to sex offenders and society. 

>>>Please Note that if you have materials to be included in the WRITINGS section of this site, you must submit the materials to be included to the webmaster.  Your material will be carefully screened prior to its inclusion on this site.  All material will be carefully reviewed for appropriate content and suitability for posting.  Any proposed posting that is deemed unsuitable, offensive, or inappropriate will be promptly deleted at the sole discretion of the Webmaster and / or Ing Counseling. 

     Your submissions for the Writings section of this site should conform to these stipulations:

• In order to be posted on the site, your material may be in any standard e-mail format if it is reasonably short.  As an alternative and for longer essays, you may submit an attached document to an e-mail.  The document should be in the Microsoft Word format.
•  Send your material to ajcott1@sbcglobal.net as an attached file to a standard e-mail message.
• In order to ensure that your message is not deleted as spam, please be certain you identify your material in the subject line of your e-mail as SOH Web Site Material.
• Your material will be reviewed and if appropriate, will be posted within 48 hours.      

 If you have questions as to the suitability of any posting you propose, please contact the site webmaster at  ingcounseling@sbcglobal.net  for assistance.  Your inquiry will be answered within 24 hours.

>>>>"Get Busy Living®" a manual for sex offender treatment programs by Steven Ing made available to purchase online as of August 10, 2008 CLICK here to > >View<

>>>>Links<< Click on this link to review news about and information of interest to sex offenders and others.  This part of the site is monitored / reviewed / updated daily.

Few people are ever called upon to rebuild a life after taking such a heavy hit as that taken by the person accused of a sex crime. Of those asked to bear this burden, many fall prey to despair, addiction and suicide-some dramatically in one shot of a revolver, others on the installment plan through passivity or with substance abuse. Because of your willingness to consider the process of rebuilding your life despite an often overwhelming set of obstacles, we think of you as heroic. You are heroic in facing a tremendous life challenge with courage, not only for your own sake, but for the sake of your family, your loved ones and those future souls yet to be touched by you.

The focus of some people who attempt to help those who are accused or convicted of sex crimes includes:

• a shame-based approach that promotes never-ending, pathological amounts of shame about your past behavior;
• a heavy reliance on an avoidance/escape model of preventing future problems;
• an emphasis on repression of normal human longings and desires and
  
• a fixation on misbehavior.

The approach of the people who are involved with this Web site couldn't be more different. Our way with the problem of criminal sexual behavior adheres to four healing foundations:

• respect for you, for your gender and for your sexuality;
• help for you in learning to manage your sexuality, rather than being managed by it;

     You will need to work with other people. This Web site is only an informational tool to help you and your family and loved ones--it is not a substitute for a good treatment program. It is a collection of resources that will grow over time. Not everyone skips with joy when they find out they must work with others to get on with having a great life, but we humans are a social species, and there is no escaping this fact of life--it is both our greatest asset as a species and truly our Achilles' heel.  Just as surely as the wrong people can be destructive to you at this time in your life, the right people can be very helpful. Isolation is the spawning ground of sexual acting out.

     Although you would never have wished these problems you're going through on anyone, your future work on those problems will lead you to a new way of thinking. This new way of thinking will make possible a new life that will be better than you could ever imagine. Keep your chin up, do not lose hope. This website was founded thanks to many who have been through your experience themselves and have come out of it better people.

Human Rights Watch -- A website that focuses on defending human rights.

Sex Offender Laws May Do More Harm Than Good (from Human Rights Watch)

Links to other sites and news relating to sex offenders / laws regarding sex offenders--NOTE that this section is monitored daily and updated daily or as required.

In the News...

July 10, 2007

Publications:

 

The following publications are designed to help you in your recovery and re-integration into society.

Get Busy Living by Steven Ing, M.A., M.F.T. © 2005- >> Order Online Today

Annual Report 2006 

     Sex Offender Help is an on-line community devoted to helping prevent sex crimes by embracing a rational and even a loving approach to treatment of the damaged individuals who acted out in illegal ways.  We are privately owned and operated.  All in the larger on-line community are invited to read, contribute submissions and participate in bulletin board threads.  When we say “all are welcome,” we mean even those “haters” out there who are unable to participate rationally and simply wish to vent (see “Hate Mail”).  Our participants include therapists, former offenders, those who have merely been arrested but have not been adjudicated, those who are guilty and those who are not guilty but whose lives have been turned upside down by horribly untrue accusations. 

    We welcome those who’ve come to accept responsibility for their behavior as well as those who are still in denial. 

     The whole purpose of this site is to aid in moving away from the highly politicized emotionalism exploited by those in public office, those in churches and those wretched individuals who just need someone to hate and think of as inferior to themselves.  This sort of thinking about problems isn’t rational and does nothing effective to help past or future victims; it is merely an exercise in ego.

      Instead we believe that only a long term rational, detached conversations help lead us to understanding and therefore allow us to both treat and to prevent sex crimes.   

      If in reading this “About Us” section you come to believe that “Us” includes all of us, the speakers and the silent, the haters and the hopeful, the helpless and the ego-driven, then you would be correct.  We welcome you to the conversation.

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